The 21 Most Important Dating Tips For Men

Text versus call, hike versus drink, ask more or fewer questions. The ins and outs of dating can be very confusing for men these days. However, many of the tried and true dating tips never change.

So in an effort to help out the fellas out there, we asked dating and relationship experts across the board what the most important dating tips for men are.

Here are the top 21 dating tips for men from top experts:

1. Be personable.

“Don’t email or text to ask a woman out for the first time. The latter are impersonal, and dating is all about getting to know someone personally. It also sets a poor tone for the relationship’s communication dynamics.” – Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist

2. Don’t move too fast.

“For most women, online dating involves a certain level of risk and anxiety so spend time getting to know her online and through phone and video chats before suggesting a meeting in person to ensure she feels comfortable.” – Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist

3. Take the initiative.

“When you’re talking or texting while planning the date, as the guy always has a time and place in mind. You never want to get into one of those exchanges like… ‘What do you want to do? Oh, I don’t know, what do you want to do?’ Be confident and make a recommendation.” – Radio Wright, Online Dating Expert

4. Meet in public.

“Make your first few dates in public and drive separately to let the lady know making her feel safe is your top priority.”- Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist

5. Go somewhere you’re comfortable.

“You might think that you’re being a gentleman by letting your date decide where you go on your date, but women like to see that you can take control. Help cut through any nerves by arranging to meet up in familiar territory that will help you feel more comfortable.” – Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist

6. Call her to confirm.

“Doctors and dentists do it; so should you. Since men usually don’t pick up the women they date, calling to confirm a date is pretty easy and puts the women at ease.” – Stef Safran, Matchmaking and Dating Expert

7. Look your best.

“A lot of guys don’t think about how they look before going on dates, even though women pay attention to the little details related to appearance. Make sure you are well-groomed (check for dirty fingernails, freshly apply deodorant, shower). Second, make sure your clothes match, aren’t wrinkled and look decent on you.” –David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man

8. Confidence is key.

“The way you enter a room or share a glance are indicators of your confidence working for you or against you. When you feel odd or awkward people can pick up on that uneasiness which will equate to whether or not you are perceived as attractive. One of the best ways to make a good first impression is by showing your confidence.” – Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker

9. Remember your manners.

“Women appreciate these old-school good manners. They also convey that you’re appreciative of her choosing to spend her time getting to know you.” – Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist

10. Turn off your phone.

“There’s nothing more annoying then phones going off while you’re trying to spend quality time with someone. Turn your phone off completely. If she knows that you’ve turned your phone off to focus entirely on the date, she’ll appreciate that you’re taking the time to engage with her fully.” – Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist

11. Keep the conversation fun.

“Since guys tend to be very analytical, it’s easy for them to turn conversations into a fact-sharing session. Women find conversations like this boring. It’s fine to share facts, but make sure to add in humor, intrigue, and flirtatious overtones. This will make her excitedly hang on your every word.” -David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man

12. Avoid ex conversation.

“Your date will not be interested and it can make things feel awkward. If your date does bring up the subject, try to keep answers short. Reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her instead.”– Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist

13. Do more than dinner and drinks.

“Most women aren’t dying to sit down for two hours to share a boring meal with a stranger, playing an awkward game of 20 questions. Instead, plan something more fun and adventurous. (Like bowling, hiking, kayaking.) Especially on the first few dates when impressions matter the most. Give them a date they’ll remember.”-David Bennett, Dating Coach at The Popular Man

14. Compliment her.

“People put effort into getting ready for a date so take the time to compliment the other person and mean it! Not jus, ‘I like your dress’ but ‘I like how your dress brings out the color of your eyes.’ Always look for the best in others and it will bring out the best in you!”- Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker

15. Keep it light-hearted.

“Try to keep your conversation light-hearted. On your first date, you don’t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don’t enjoy your job or other issues. Avoid talking about religion, politics, or recent news that’s controversial. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes, you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun.”– Nicolas Aujula, Relationship Coach and Therapist

16. Stay in the moment.

“This is usually done out of lack of confidence hoping the girl wants to see you in the future. Women will feel this neediness. Just enjoy the date and if things go well, make future planes when you talk on the phone next.”– Radio Wright, Online Dating Expert

17. Leave a little mystery.

“When you are getting to know someone you do not want to lay all your cards out on the table or tell your entire life story. The sense of mystery keeps them coming back for more and creates a certain chemistry that will make you stand out from others.”- Denise Levy, Professional MatchMaker

18. Make sure she gets home.

“Make sure she gets in her car, cab, etc. safely. Women’s safety is important, showing her that you care about her, shows her that you are a gentleman.”- Stef Safran, Matchmaking and Dating Expert

19. Let her take the first step towards intimacy.

“This will help her feel like you care about her and not just her body and help her feel safe and that she’s in control of the pace you’re moving without pressure.”- Dr. Wyatt Fisher, Clinical Psychologist

20. Be honest.

“Women can handle rejection. More people complain about the flakiness and the ghosting. If you are not interested, don’t lead her on. After all, you never know if the next woman you date somehow knows her.”- Stef Safran, Matchmaking and Dating Expert

21. Don’t play games.

We get that you don’t want to seem needy, clingy, desperate, or overzealous. But if you’d like to see her again, just let her know. “You can weave it into the conversation at the end of the first date (e.g. ‘This was a great evening. Would you open to seeing each other again soon?’) If she says ‘yes’, then say, ‘Awesome. I’ll call you on ___ and set something up.’ Then follow through and call when you say you would.”- Erika Martinez, Psy.D. Licensed Psychologist

Source: https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/dating-advice/dating-advice-men/dating-tips-for-men

What Makes An Average Looking Guy Instantly Become "Hot"?

If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over - she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she's had to reject because they weren't confident enough.

The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to pass, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy and say "he's good looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women.

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backward for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."

Women go for the throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar.

There are other small things like "why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "will you take a picture for us?"

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy."

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture.

But usually, they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women are giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.

This is one of the "Sexual Triggers" that drive beautiful women wild.

How To Get A 95.7% Success Rate With Hot Women?

Ok...

So how did some skinny trailer park loser, and a
Goldfish discover the secret password to unlock a
woman's desire for you?

Let's get into the facts of what Joshua Pellicer
discovered.

Ok...

"Preselection".

Basically, nearly all females on earth choose who
they want to mate with off of pre-selection.

So, to give the example of the Goldfish ---
yeah, I'm going there --- it goes like this:

Male goldfish all look the same.

Females need to mate.

So, who do the females choose?

The male goldfish that other female goldfish are
mating with.

How does this play out with us humans?

When a girl decides who she wants to be sexual
with... she goes for the guy that other women are
choosing.

They think deep down in their instincts,

"Well other women want him. Therefore he must have superior genes".

Hold up. Before you say "looks", "money", or "fame"...

Not so fast.

In case ya haven't noticed social media has changed
a lot for women. They are not the virgins they were
back in the ole day. Female role models now seem to
be naked in a music video... or in a more “Extremely
NSFW” video that was "leaked".

Women are more independent now too.

The guys they like, the guys they notice, it's not on looks.

It's all about "Pre-selection".

And, you don't need girls surrounding you right now to do
it.

Joshua found an easy way to do it.

No lines. No routines (but he's got stuff to say in case
your mind nervously draws a blank).

Instead, you use his simple little map. It's like a
treasure map that leads right to her...

Err...

Let's say "kitty". (And, it builds a powerful deep intimate
connection in about 20 minutes or less... if that's your
thang.)